Friday, 19 December 2008

How to live a balanced life...

How do you live a balanced life? I'm not entirely sure to be honest. I feel like I can't fit everything into life that I need to. Owning a home, which is mid-DIY, keeping everything tidy, keeping the house clean, washing my clothes, washing my husbands clothes, ironing said clothes, cooking healthy (pah!) meals every evening, recreation time, relationship time, church meeting time, shopping, organising Christmas, entertaining, educating oneself with educating books, reading books that are just plain fun, making 130 wedding invites (cus I said I would...grrrr) AND working full time.

Is it me or does that sound like a lot? How am I supposed to do ALL of those things successfully? I sit at work and feel like working is wasting my time. I could be at home doing all this other stuff. The ironing pile is ridiculously high. I mean RIDICULOUSLY. I guess its the thing I ignore the most. The DIY still isn't finished so I have an un-finished kitchen still. There's just stuff everywhere. How we're supposed to run a fully fledged I.T business out of a small bedroom is beyond me.

I think I can safely say I am overwhelmed. Adding to the fact that my health is an obstacle... gosh. Help?

Wednesday, 17 December 2008

A Song of Hope....and fun!!

My twin (in-spirit) and I have made a new blog called "Twins That Sing". We've discovered we both have a passion for singing, and have therefore made a blog showcasing the songs we have recorded so far. Rhona has only been doing it for the past week and is still waiting on a new mic. I'm still getting to grasps with my voice and my recording software!

Well, anyhow, if you'd like to take a look, the link is here...


Tuesday, 2 December 2008

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff - Perfectionism is NOT cool

Make Peace with Imperfection

"I've yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle. Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what's wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what's wrong, it implies that we are dissatisfied, discontent...

...This strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your very best but with being overly attached and focused on what's wrong with life. It's about realising that while there's always a better way to do something, this doesn't mean that you can't enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.

The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Gently remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now. As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you'll begin to discover the perfection in life itself."

From "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and it's all Small Stuff" by Richard Carlson

I really relate to this. I've always striven for perfection and never met it. So I really need to remember this. Life will be just great, even if things aren't perfect.

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff - Thought Management

Be Aware of the Snowball Effect of Your Thinking

"A powerful technique for becoming more peaceful is to be aware of how quickly your negative and insecure thinking can spiral out of control. Have you ever noticed how uptight you feel when you're caught up in your thinking? And to top it off, the more absorbed you get in the details of whatever is upsetting you, the worse you feel. One thought leads to another, and yet another, until at some point, you become incredibly agitated...'s impossible to feel peaceful with your head full of concerns and annoyances.

The solution is to notice what's happening in your head before your thoughts have a chance to build any momentum. The sooner you catch yourself in the act of building your mental snowball, the easier it is to stop...
...You may indeed be a busy person, but remember that filling your head with thoughts of how overwhelmed you are only exacerbates the problem by making you feel even more stressed than you already do. Try this simple little exercise the next time you begin to obsess on your schedule. You'll be amazed at home effective it can be."

From "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and it's all Small Stuff" by Richard Carlson

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